Kids or No Kids? 6 Tips for Having the Talk While DatingSample

Day 4: Tips for the Talk, pt. 3

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” - Ephesians 4:31-32

Here’s another tip for approaching the topic of kids with care, honesty, and respect; paving the way for a stronger relationship, no matter the outcome.

5. Be Okay with Not Agreeing on Everything

Talking about having kids can be tough. You might not always agree or see eye-to-eye, and that’s okay. Ephesians 4:31-32 reminds us to be kind, compassionate, and forgiving regardless.

God has a plan for each of us. Sometimes, His plan means we won’t always agree with the people we care about.

It’s important to listen to your partner’s thoughts and feelings. If you both have very strong opinions that don’t match, it’s okay to step back and think about what’s best for both of you. If you find yourselves on two opposite sides, it might be best not to move forward in your romantic relationship. Being honest and kind is better than forcing something that’s not meant to be.

But what if there’s some room for discussion? Maybe one of you wants kids soon, and the other isn’t sure yet. This could be a chance to keep talking and praying together. Keep the conversation open and be willing to listen. Sometimes, God helps us find a middle ground.

Remember, being kind and compassionate is key. Don’t let anger or bitterness take over the conversation. Pray for God’s guidance. Ask Him to help you both understand each other’s hearts. God wants what’s best for you and will guide you if you ask Him.

In the end, whether you agree to have kids or not, remember to be respectful and loving. Trust that God knows what’s best for you. He will lead you down the right path. Keep your heart open to His plan, and be patient.