You Are Not Broken

Feeling overwhelmed? Of course you are! I am! Look at the number of things on our plates. I have a family who wants to spend time with me, clients who expect a focused counselor, a house to clean, homework to oversee, friends who deserve more than sporadic texts, and a refrigerator that refuses to stock itself. We say we’re “tired,” but is that the whole truth? Of course not! “Tired” is the easy answer. “Tired” is the simple answer. “Tired” is the palatable, socially acceptable answer that everyone will understand, nod and sigh in agreement with, and not ask any further questions about. But it doesn’t even begin to describe the way we’re really feeling these days.

We are human beings experiencing many of the same struggles and having the same challenges. Let’s be transparent about that. Let’s share our stories so that we don’t feel alone. So that we can support each other and create safe spaces and communities where we can be vulnerable with each other. Let’s take off the superhero cape and just be human.

Sometimes, self-care looks like taking time to nurture your goals and passions without comparing them to anyone else’s. Don’t downplay your accomplishments because they look different than someone else’s.

Can’t run a 5K? At least you made it to the gym three times this week. Didn’t get to go shopping this weekend? Don’t forget: you were able to pay all your bills this month. Didn’t get all the laundry done? But you cooked for your family, and your kids are still alive. Didn’t start that blog or online boutique like you planned this week? You did get your logo finished and your business cards printed. Didn’t win the Superwoman Award this week? (By the way, there is no such thing!) But you tried your best, you took deep breaths, and you didn’t take your frustrations out on innocent people. Give yourself some credit.

You are winning. And that is worth celebrating!

Be gentle with yourself. The level of perfection you’re trying to achieve is unrealistic and unhealthy. Adjust your expectations and allow yourself to be proud of what you have accomplished.

Prayer

Father, I often feel so tired, and I forget to turn to you for guidance and strength. Please be with me as I face challenges, and please help me be gentle with myself. Amen.