UnoffendableSample

"THE CRITIC IN ME"

One of the first steps to being unoffendable is realizing that we, ourselves, have a large capacity to do a lot of offending. It’s an underrated defense mechanism.

Most of us seldom criticize others out loud, but privately, merely diminishing someone else’s success makes us feel better about our own shortcomings. It’s as though another person’s things, careers, and relationships are in direct competition with our things, our careers, and our relationships. But as long as we see our friends and their lives as secret competition, we will always incidentally offend other people because we find it so stinking hard to just be happy for them. It’s amazing that people can spend an hour on social media and internally criticize what everyone else is posting. 

Remember this: You will reap what you sow. Life is not about what you receive. Life is all about what you give.

I decided, a long time ago, I want to be known as a cheerleader for my family, friends, and the people I love the most. The life of a fan is so much more enjoyable than the life of a hater. When I began intentionally celebrating other people, I actually found myself becoming less offended and less offending.

Genuine celebration of another person’s success disarms the trap of comparison.

So the question you have to ask is who do you need celebrate?