The Heart of a WarriorSample

Loving a Woman



If the masculine heart is opposed, the feminine heart is all-out assaulted. Satan comes at a woman’s glory with a jealous and vengeful hatred. And it makes sense. The archangel, Lucifer, was the strongest and most beautiful of all created beings. He was the reigning general of the angel armies—until he went astray.


Why did he go astray? Jealousy.


Eve was the crown of creation. Beautiful and strong. Lucifer did not want to share the glory of God with God’s new creations, man and woman. Lucifer was unwilling to hand over his crown to Eve, the beautiful image-bearer of God. The mutiny was Lucifer’s idea. And the book of Revelation (12:7) tells us that now in a new role and playing a new part in the story, Satan, the ol’ dragon, is hurled to earth and continues his jealous campaign of hatred, making war against the Sons of God (Revelation 12:17).


The prince of this dark world is deemed a liar, a villain who wants to steal the crown back, kill the image-bearers, and destroy love.


And now for the feminine heart… achieving the world’s standard of womanliness is utterly exhausting for women—always striving and yet never measuring up.


If you know the glory of your wife’s or daughter’s heart—what they love to do, what they are passionate about, what makes them come alive, what each one uniquely brings to the kingdom—then you know what the enemy is up to in their lives.


The question is, do you know, do you see, will you invite and validate those things in her heart?


You must know her… each of their stories, their journeys of heart, but most men don’t. What happened to her?


Men’s wounds and those of our wives mixed together making for the perfect storm.


Women cannot turn to us for healing just like we cannot turn to them.


We cannot heal one another. Love each other, yes; heal, no.


That is God’s department.


God will often partner with a man by giving him a message of truth to deliver to a wounded feminine heart, but the man never heals her, nor can she ever be his source of healing. Just as neither image-bearer, man nor woman, can be the primary source of life for one another, there must be someone else they turn to for Life.


Our hearts are far too needy to put that kind of pressure and demand on one another.


You must know, the daughters of Eve hold a special place in the Larger Story. They are in our story and lives for a very important reason…God has them in our lives to teach us how to love.


As men, we can play an important part of their healing journey, or we can aid the enemy in wounding them. When God lovingly allows us to see the wounds women bear—the lies, brokenness, and false self they carry within themselves—what then? How are we to help the feminine heart be free?


The feminine heart, the deepest and truest thing about a woman, was designed to be loved, pursued, delighted in, enjoyed, protected, and fought for. Like us, women long to be loved—to be the Beloved Daughters, to know that God sees them and loves what he sees.


Every feminine heart on the planet desperately needs to experience God’s love and possess it as her own.


If a woman does, it will change everything.


In your Time alone with God, ask Him:

Father God, when have I turned to the women in my life to provide the healing only You can provide?

Jesus, what wounds or hurtful moments are affecting my wife’s (daughter’s, mother’s…) ability to know You? To know that she is Beloved?

Holy Spirit, reveal to me what I need to apologize for, accept responsibility for and seek forgiveness for from the women in my life (living or dead).