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Seek Wise Counsel

Now that we've shared these healthy and biblical conflict skills, you may ask, what do I do when we get stuck, or the problem is too big? Marriage is great, but it can also be challenging, and in some situations, conflicts may become complex and difficult to resolve on your own. In those situations, or what is known as gridlocked conflict, scripture tells us to seek wise counsel when needed.

Proverbs 15:22 says that "plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed." Involving a trusted and impartial third party, such as a pastor or counselor, can provide fresh perspectives and guidance, facilitating a constructive resolution process.

Seeking counsel can help you overcome gridlocked conflict and equip you for the future. Counsel is good to receive at any point throughout your marriage. Proverbs 19:20 encourages us to listen to advice and instruction to gain wisdom for the future. Counseling can help you shift your perspectives as a couple and learn skills and tools to benefit your marriage.

If you need help or want to prepare more for the future, there is no shame in getting help. It is the opposite; the wise seek help while others continue needlessly in their struggles.

Ponder This:

What are your thoughts on counseling? Would you be willing to seek it out if you needed it? Why or why not?

Let's Pray:

Dear Lord,

You are the giver of wisdom and want us to have renewed minds filled with truth. If our marriage needs this help now, help my spouse and me to see the value in seeking it. I want healthy conflict in my marriage that draws us closer together instead of unhealthy conflict that tears us apart. Guide me and my spouse in your will for our marriage. In Jesus' name, Amen.

If you would like more help with conflict, check out The L.O.V.E. Your Way Through Conflict online course. Learn about it here .