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"The Keys to a Blessed Life" in American Sign Language

DAY 27 OF 35

The First Key Step Toward Resolving Conflict
By Rick Warren

“Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend’s eye, but you don’t notice the big piece of wood in your own eye? First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to take the dust out of your friend’s eye.” (Matthew 7:3, 5b NCV)

One of the most important life skills that you have to learn is conflict resolution. If you don’t, you’ll spend a lot of your life miserable because we’re imperfect people, and we have conflict almost every day of our lives.

If you want to resolve conflict, you must make the first move. That means you will have to ask for God’s help because it takes courage to approach someone you are in conflict with and tell that person you want to sit down and work it out.

Then, you don’t start with what the other person has done wrong. You don’t start with a bunch of accusations or ways that you’ve been hurt. You start with what’s your fault.

The conflict may be 99.99 percent their fault. But you can always find something to confess! Maybe it was your poor response, even if it came out of defensiveness. Maybe it was your attitude. Maybe it was the way you walked away.

You have weaknesses in your life that others see clearly, but you’ve never seen. Those are your blind spots. You have weaknesses you’re clueless about. That’s why you need to come to conflict resolution with a humble heart and begin with your own faults.

Jesus said, “Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend’s eye, but you don’t notice the big piece of wood in your own eye? First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to take the dust out of your friend’s eye” (Matthew 7:3, 5b NCV).

He’s saying you need to confess your part of the conflict first. What’s the piece of wood in your eye that is keeping you from seeing the situation clearly? Don’t start with the other person and all the ways they’ve hurt you until you’ve confessed your part of the conflict first.

Did you cause conflict by being insensitive? Or were you overly sensitive? Did you not show compassion for the person who was hurting? Were you being over-demanding? What are your blind spots? Once you figure them out and confess them, you’ll be ready for the next step in conflict resolution.

Talk It Over

What keeps us from seeing our own sin clearly?

How do you think it affects the other person when you start conflict resolution with confession rather than accusations?

How will you move forward with resolving a conflict in your life? How will you make the first move?

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"The Keys to a Blessed Life" in American Sign Language

God wants to bless your life! The problem is that people often don’t live in ways that God can bless. Join Pastor Rick for this series as he walks through Jesus’ most famous sermon, the Sermon on the Mount, where he shared the Beatitudes — the conditions for receiving God’s blessing on your life. They still apply to your life today!

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