Killing ComparisonSample

Insecurity is at epic levels around the world because many of us see other people's success as our failure. But why is this? And how do we get free from it? Well, let's start here.

Have you ever considered the power of words? Have you ever considered how the words spoken over you have made you see yourself? In our focus scripture today, Proverbs 18:21, the Bible tells us that:

"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit."

The word translated power is the Hebrew word Yad, which means "hand." This scripture, then, tells us that the tongue has the ability to create, shape, and mold, either, life or death in those it speaks over; just like a hand. Which brings me to you.

The root of insecurity is found in the words of death, discouragement, and degradation that have been spoken over you. Words that have fractured your identity. It may have happened in your childhood, or it may have happened in adulthood, but regardless of when it happened the result is that you can't see yourself clearly because the cracks those words created in your identity have distorted how you see yourself.

I understand this very well because I grew up morbidly obese. For the majority of my childhood and young adulthood I was called fat, fatty, Ms. Piggy, and more, ultimately making me see myself as fat, ugly, and unattractive. In 9th grade a boy told me, "with a body like that, you're not good for anything except sex with the lights off." Everyone busted out laughing... while my heart shattered. His hurtful, deadly words slammed against the many cracks people's hurtful, deadly words created in the way I saw myself through the years, and the force of his words broke my heart in a million pieces.

The words that are spoken over you matter. And killing comparison requires investigating the words that have been spoken over you that have been the hands that have molded, shaped, and crafted your identity. Before our next session, pray for God's grace to help you repair the ground of your identity— ground that hurtful words have fractured.

Words matter.