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Put A Filter On Your Eyes
The second filter we, as married people, should use is a filter on our eyes. We need to start looking at our marriage as what it truly is. God brought someone into our lives to perfect us and so we could complement one another. The best part of the movie of your life is your wife, just as the best part of her movie is her husband.
When God saw Adam alone He said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” God took Adam at the beginning and took something out of him. Adam had a void as a result of one of his ribs being removed. At that moment he was incomplete. Something that is incomplete is not good.
God came to Adam and said, “This man needs help.” He gave him a suitable helper, the perfect helper. If God has given you the perfect helper it is because He saw that you needed help. The Scripture says in Proverbs 18:22, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure.” He finds good things. God made a woman for a man. Your wife is the extension of your life. She represents you, and you represent her. If she is happy or sad, that is the reflection of you. My wife is my mirror and I am her mirror.
We are an extension of each other—we are one. Your husband represents you: where he is, what he says, what he does. If the husband is successful, the wife is successful. Nobody knows their partner as well as a spouse does, not even their mother or father. When you are married you see every weakness, fault, and mistake that nobody else knows.
God shows you your partner’s weaknesses so that you can help them. If your husband has a lot of weaknesses and God put you with him as a wise woman, be careful so that you can help him. We should feel proud of our spouses, because they complement our weak areas, and they know every one of our weaknesses.
God brought you together to see things other people cannot see. This is the way God is telling you, “cover that weakness.” We need to learn when our spouses have a weakness and cover them and perfect them.
Reflect
Are you complementing your spouse’s weak areas?
I pray that you have the right filter on your eyes and see the way your spouse complements you.
About this Plan
A healthy marriage is proof that spouses have well-functioning human relationships. We may ask ourselves, what is the formula for some marriages to last, while others end in divorce? It is not something magical. The main reason is that each spouse has learned to put a filter on three different areas of their lives: a filter on their mouth, a filter on their eyes, and a filter on their hearts.
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