7 Simple Ways to Love Your Son or DaughterSample

Day Six

"Opportunities for Grace"

Scripture: Romans 3:20–24; Ephesians 2:8–9

(Lisa) Not too long ago, our twelve-year-old made his best friend cry. I was horrified when I heard about it. Our son said something that deeply hurt his friend’s feelings, and there was no taking those words back. I couldn’t believe it. How could he have said such a thing? And to this nice young man, of all people? 

Matt sat down to talk it over with our son. At first, he didn’t understand what he had done wrong. In his mind, it wasn’t that big of a deal and maybe even justified. But, his dad patiently and gently pointed out what was hurtful about what he’d said. In time, he saw the implications of his remarks and tears filled his blue eyes. He was genuinely sorry for what he’d done, but it had taken some time for him to get there. 

Do you tend to overreact when your child does something wrong? Remember, your response to your child’s mistakes will have a substantial impact on his life from that moment going forward. He needs to know that you’re not going to flip out. Sit down with him to help him see what he’s done wrong and then help him do what he can to make it right. 

Sometimes when one of my children makes a mistake or misses a great opportunity, I can feel many wise words bubbling up inside me—all the things she could have done, should have done. And I’m tempted to drive those words home. 

Except for one thing. 

If she can count on hearing a lecture every time she comes to me about something, she’ll stop coming after a while. 

I’m not saying that there’s never a time to speak up, but there’s something to be said for holding your tongue. Just because you or I know exactly what a child should do in a given situation doesn’t mean we need to share it. 

Maybe you can use your wisdom to pray about the situation. It’s quite possible that your child will figure out what’s right without you ever saying a thing. 

Think twice before starting in on the lecture. Silence can speak louder than you might realize. 

Why is listening to a child a way of showing love?