What Your Wife Really Wants but Can't Tell YouSample
Keep Your Promises
Loving your wife second anticipates your ABSOLUTE fidelity. UNLESS you want to destroy her trust, making a knock-down gorgeous bride question her worth… DON’T CHEAT ON HER.
Not in person. Not on a device or even in your head. Do not cheat today, tomorrow, next year or in seven years. Never. This is a non-negotiable our society has offered as normal and expected marriage baggage.
NONSENSE. That’s absurd.
She doesn’t hear that “It didn’t mean anything to you,” or “It was the alcohol.” She hears, “I don’t love you enough to be faithful.” “I cannot be trusted because I lie, cheat, and have poor judgment.” “You are not enough.”
Our society doesn’t even call this infidelity a moral wrong. Instead, they admit, “I made a mistake.” The Bible declares the act to be breaking the covenant relationship made before God and man.
This one made the shortlist because your wife can’t ask you to be faithful. She shouldn’t have to, should she? That’s what I thought, too, until I realized God placed it at the top of His shortlist in relating with us. How quickly are we unfaithful to Him in a thousand ways because our hearts are deceitful? The Word calls us then to GUARD our hearts because the heart determines the course of our lives. This is especially true in our marriage relationships.
Proverbs compares adulterous behaviors to picking up fire and holding it next to your chest. That’s just stupid! A person is going to get burned. But somehow the mind persuades that you’re the exception. You begin believing you will be able to hold that fire without getting burned or even the smell of smoke leaving a trace.
Biblical wisdom sees through that hogwash. For heaven’s sake, so does the Huffington Post. You will get burned. Let well enough alone and miss the loss of relationship, the extensive personal destruction, and disgrace. This one doesn’t just go away. God found it critical enough to be a Biblical deal-breaker. “I’m sorry,” doesn’t fix it.
Your bride wants you to forsake all others for her and her alone, just like you promised.
Ask the Lord to show you how to better guard your heart. Are there habits you need to break? New ones you need to begin?
Ask God to begin giving you wisdom in how to demonstrate your faithfulness in keeping your promises to your wife.
About this Plan
Why can’t your wife tell you? Honestly, she hopes you already know. She can’t say anything now. It’s like the neighbor you should know by name, but it’s been too long to ask, “What’s your name, again?” Simply stated, not getting these five Big Ones can wreck a marriage. Read it, digest it, and for the love of all things good, make this your marriage shortlist.
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