Seven Days to “The Intimacy You Crave” Bible PlanSample

Heavenly Connection

I had tortilla chips and a coke for dinner last night. I was craving connection, or maybe chocolate cake, but I settled for a bowl of chips and a soda. 

God made us for connectedness. We are wired with a deep longing, a desire, a craving for intimacy. We want to feel connected to others. As a married woman, God created a way for those desires to be fulfilled. 

We can come up with countless reasons to say no to “amorous congress” and be completely justified. Oftentimes, cake sounds more fun than sex. The difference between cake and sex is that after cake I almost always wish I hadn’t eaten it, but with sex I can’t think of a time I regretted it. Ever. Can you?

God repeatedly commands us to love our husbands both emotionally and physically, and He wants us to have a healthy, happy marriage—emotionally and physically. Read the Song of Solomon and tell me you didn’t blush…just a little. 

The concept of an active and flourishing sexual connection with your husband can seem indulgent and frivolous. Certainly, there are more important things we need to be doing—who has time for personal indulgence? Counterfeit alternatives to fulfill our longings for intimacy can emerge, from a quest for accolades and importance to a bag of chips and a sweet bubbly drink. 

All lies from the enemy. 

Our marriages can be used by God to glorify the kingdom. I’ve often heard women say, “I don’t know what God’s will is for my life.” This statement sometimes puzzles me when made by a married woman. We tend to complicate things. If we’re married, God’s will is that we love our husbands—all out—emotionally and physically. God also wills that we enjoy our physical relationships with our husbands; it’s one of His gifts to us. When I learned this truth and developed a closer relationship with God, my physical relationship with my husband began deepening.

Do you feel intense longing for connection? Instead of running from connection, dive into “connection.” It’s okay, God says so.

So what? Think about all the ways you may use counterfeit alternatives to satisfy deep longing. Go to the One who made you and formed you and allow His plan to satiate you. 

Dear God, give me the wisdom to know when I’m settling for less than Your best for me in my marriage relationship and in all of my relationships.