Daily Habits Of Marital Intimacy - 10 Day Reading PlanSample

Day 7: Sexual Intimacy

Sexual intimacy is something God designed for your marriage. For the beauty of sexual intimacy to flourish, your sexual histories matter. For whatever blocks your sexual intimacy, seek wise counsel to enjoy its beauty in your marriage. Here are eight values to grow your sexual intimacy to be life-giving in your marriage.

Talk. Use your words, your thoughts, feelings, and desires (TFDs) to express yourself regarding sexual intimacy. Touch. Keep your touches memorable and fresh—never routine or checklist. Creativity. Vulnerability and risk-taking is a part of creativity. Change. You will need grace for change. Many times as change enters into your marriage, you will need to create a new sexual normal for the two of you. Passion. Lovemaking that flows out of passionately loving and knowing your partner sexually is beautiful. A passionate relationship maintains the mindset, “I want you to feel loved, beautiful, special, delighted in, and enjoyed relationally and sexually.” Pleasure. Mutual trust and communication are two valued principles that are needed to enjoy the value of pleasure in your marriage. Desire. There are three aspects of desire to consider: desire is a gift from God; desire is not your sexual drive; and desire is the glue between passion and pleasure. Discipline. There are specific ways you will want to protect it: your thought life, your imaginations, what you view, and the decisions you make based on what you think and see. 

Reflection: I pray that you will create a beautiful sexual love story! May God heal every sexual wound, replacing every lie with the truth, restoring transparency, trust, and your intimacy with each other! I trust you will draw from God’s redemptive plan and receive His help, hope, and grace for healing! You can be restored fully and your marriage can be redeemed. I trust as you care for your marriage spiritually, emotionally, and now sexually, you will do all you can to enjoy it. Take time to consider the ways that you can grow, deepen, create, or safeguard your sexual intimacy with your partner.