The Marriage Game PlanSample

THE DAILY CHOICE TO BE ONE

Throughout the Bible, God illustrates that one of His main reasons for creating the institution of marriage was to bring two people together in oneness and solidarity: two separate lives creating one unit.

As Jesus says in Mark 10:7-9 NKJV, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Some people think marriage is just a piece of paper or a contract, but that is not God’s intention. Marriage is a sacred bond between two people—a bond not to be broken, divided, or separated. One of the best parts about marriage is being spiritually glued or connected to your lifelong companion and helper with the help of Almighty God.

The bond between a husband and a wife is so close that despite the fact they are two different people, through their new union, they are as “one flesh” or team. “One flesh” is symbolic of the oneness that God originally intended when He created the first marriage between Adam and Eve (see Genesis 2:24). You cannot become one and create a marriage of oneness haphazardly or accidentally. You build oneness and solidarity only with intentionality and daily choices.

Often married couples do not recognize this important step initially. It takes time to realize that many disagreements are due to our selfish, independent, and individual ways of looking at things. As married couples, we have to work together as one unit instead of two separate people. This means purposefully allowing the other person to shape and influence us through our different perspectives and ways of tackling problems.

Becoming one in marriage takes time—usually much more than we think it will. The main goal is to develop a desire and heart to become one with your spouse. This oneness happens over time as each spouse daily makes intentional decisions to become one.

What are some areas in which your individual perspectives or habits have caused division in your marriage? How can you work toward greater unity in those areas?