Accountability and Brotherhood

Looking back, I’ve had plenty of friends throughout life but very few brothers.

The crazy part is that every brother can be a friend, but not every friend is a brother. Before we go any further, let’s take a moment to define each of them and evaluate who truly fits where in our own lives.

Friends are the “yes men.” They avoid friction, sticking around when it's easy and convenient. They show up during “banking hours,” love small talk and keep things surface level. They’re great for discussing the weather or grabbing a casual lunch—but when the storms of life hit, they’re nowhere to be found.

Brothers, on the other hand, are different. These are the guys who tell me what I need to hear, not what I want to hear. They don’t entertain my truth—they stand firm on His truth. These are the 3 AM guys. When I call, they answer. When I’m in need, they don’t just offer advice—they show up. I hear the keys jingling as they head out the door. They don’t hide their battles, and they’re not afraid to shed a tear in front of me. Their love is real, their accountability is high, and their expectations for me are even higher.

This level of brotherhood and accountability is essential in the fight against sin—especially battles like pornography, where isolation is the enemy’s greatest weapon. Too many men walk through life without accountability and wonder why they keep losing the battle. The truth is, that we must prioritize real brotherhood.

But here’s the catch: Finding these kinds of men starts with being one. It takes initiative. It takes effort. It’s about more than just checking the easy boxes in life—it’s about forging real relationships, built on truth and trust. If you’re walking through life without accountability and brotherhood, you are missing the greatest opportunity for growth. Until we take it seriously, the enemy will keep kicking our butts.

So, here’s the challenge: Step up. Seek out strong brothers. Be one. Because iron sharpens iron, and men of God need each other to stay strong in the fight, especially against the dark evil that encompasses pornography.

Questions to Consider

1. Who in your life is a true brother, not just a friend?
2. When was the last time you had a hard but needed conversation?