Biblically-Based Communication Tips for CouplesSample

Day 2: Listen Before You Speak

The second communication tip is to listen before you speak. It comes from James 1:19, which says, "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."

Imagine you and your partner are having a conversation. Sometimes, we can be so eager to share our own thoughts that we forget to really listen to what our partner is saying. But good communication isn't just about talking — it's also about being a great listener. By listening carefully, you show respect and understanding for your partner’s thoughts and feelings.

Think about a time when you felt genuinely listened to. It probably made you feel valued and understood. You can give your partner that same feeling by being quick to listen and slow to speak. For example, if your partner is telling you about a tough day at work, instead of jumping in with your own stories or advice, try saying, "That sounds really hard. How did it make you feel?" This shows that you care about their experience and want to understand their perspective.

Sometimes, it's easy to get angry or frustrated, especially when you feel misunderstood or upset. But remember, being slow to speak and slow to anger can prevent misunderstandings and conflicts. Taking a moment to listen first can help you respond with more kindness and patience.

Here’s a challenge for you: Next time you have a conversation with your partner, focus on listening more than speaking. Make eye contact, nod, and give them your full attention. If you feel the urge to interrupt or get angry, take a deep breath and remind yourself to listen first. Practicing this daily can strengthen your relationship and make you feel more connected.

God wants us to be good listeners and to show love and respect through our actions. By prioritizing listening, you can help your partner feel heard and valued.