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God’s Gift to Husbands and Wives: A 3-Day Marriage PlanSample

God’s Gift to Husbands and Wives: A 3-Day Marriage Plan

DAY 3 OF 3

Twelve-Step Bonding

Above all, love each other deeply.

1 Peter 4:8

Do you feel "bonded" to your mate? Bonding refers to the emotional connectedness that links a man and woman together for life and makes them irreplaceable to each other. It is God's gift of closest companionship to those who have experienced it.

According to Drs. Donald Joy and Desmond Morris, bonding is most likely to occur between those who have moved systematically and slowly through the following twelve steps during their courtship and marriage:

1) Eye to body. 2) Eye to eye. 3) Voice to voice. 4) Hand to hand. 5) Hand to shoulder. 6) Hand to waist. 7) Face to face. 8) Hand to head. 9) Hand to body. 10) Mouth to breast. 11) Touching below the waist. 12) Intercourse.

The final acts of physical contact should, of course, be reserved for the marital relationship. In the most successful unions, husbands and wives journey through each of the twelve steps regularly. Touching, talking, holding hands, and gazing into one another's eyes are as important to partners in their midlife years as to twenty-year-olds. Indeed, the best way to reinvigorate a tired sex life is to walk through the twelve steps of courtship frequently and with gusto!

Just between us . . .

·During our courtship, did we follow this progression of bonding steps?

·Are we regularly experiencing each level of bonding now?

·How can we strengthen our physical and emotional bonding in our relationship?

Dear Father, if we have been careless in the different kinds of relational bonding, forgive us. Help us to become one in body and soul. Amen.

Excerpted from Night Light for Couples, used with permission.

You have captivated my heart . . . you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes . . . (Songs 4:9, ESV – what a husband might say to his wife)

His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me! (Songs 8:3, ESV – what a wife might say of her husband)

Day 2

About this Plan

God’s Gift to Husbands and Wives: A 3-Day Marriage Plan

Sexual intimacy in marriage is a blessing that God has designed exclusively for husbands and wives to enjoy with each other. This “do-not-open-until-after-the-wedding” present is intended to be unwrapped in the context of marriage with frequency and delight. While various factors can have a quenching effect on a couple’s romantic life, we’ll consider this week some ideas for keeping their “love life” intact.

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We would like to thank The Dr. James Dobson Family Institute for providing this plan. For more information, please visit: https://www.drjamesdobson.org