The Art of Edification: A 3-Day Marriage PlanSample

Taken for Granted

Honor one another above yourselves.

Romans 12:10

Each of us has a heartfelt need to be honored and respected. All too often, however, we take our spouses for granted at home. Is it any wonder that so many mothers hold down jobs in the workplace today? Many work for financial reasons, but some do so to find the recognition and praise they don’t get from their mates. Could this also be why many men spend excessive hours at work—to receive from colleagues the accolades that they don’t get at home?

Your partner is a jack‐of‐all‐trades who brings a host of skills to your marriage: provider, short‐order cook, nurse, counselor, financial planner, gardener, arbiter of sibling disputes, spiritual leader, comforter, and much more. We encourage you to show your appreciation for these talents and services. Tell your wife how much you enjoy her cooking. Send your husband to work with a note praising him for his good judgment with the family budget. In front of guests, compliment her taste in home decor and his wise guidance of the children.

If we don’t make our mate feel honored and respected, we may find our partner looking for recognition somewhere else.

Just between us . . .

• What couple do we know who is an example to us of honoring each other?

• Do we honor each other well? What opportunities to bestow honor have we missed?

• Have we sought recognition elsewhere because we weren’t receiving enough at home?

Heavenly Father, forgive us for any self-centeredness or lack of consideration in our marriage. Please teach us to make honoring our spouse a reflex action, not a begrudging afterthought. Amen.

Excerpted from Night Light for Couples, used with permission.

. . . and may the Lord make you increase and abound in love for one another . . . (1 Thess. 3:12, ESV)

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. (1 Thess. 5:11, ESV)