The Gift of RejectionSample

When we explode, our rejection pain becomes visible to others in the form of anger, fighting, yelling, and hurting people. This form of rejection pain is the form most often condemned as wrong. But, we can also explode into a more seemingly virtuous form of rejection pain, and that is achievement; being hyper-ambitious and consistently achieving more and more success.

On the flip side, when we implode, our rejection pain takes the form of self-harm. People implode into all types of addictions to try and soothe their rejection pain, including drugs or alcohol or sex or pornography. Some people cut themselves or end up severely depressed or anxious. When we implode, people observing us will usually shake their heads in disgust because they can’t understand why we keep hurting ourselves.

But, whether we explode or implode, the root of the pain is the same. Our expression of rejection is how we cope with being abandoned, humiliated, embarrassed, and unwanted.

Today, I want you to get really honest with yourself and ask the following questions:

1. How do I show up in the world because of my rejection pain?
2. What do I do to anesthetize or numb the pain?

Think about this today and join me back here tomorrow as I share the scriptural revelation that made me see rejection as a gift that God can use for my good and his glory.