Purity in Communication

Ephesians 4:29

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

The words we speak play a crucial role in maintaining Purity in Communication. Ephesians 4:29 says, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

Of course, it doesn’t mean avoiding the hard conversations but applying Biblical truth during them — speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) and being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry (James 1:19).

How do you do all this practically?

It could mean avoiding gossip, crude jokes, or derogatory comments — with and toward each other. Don’t talk poorly about other people; also, make sure you don’t tear down your partner to other people, even your friends. While it’s good to have people to talk through challenges with, sharing sensitive information about your partner or putting their mistakes on display can lead to distrust and resentment. Instead, in everything you do, strive to speak words of encouragement, love, and truth… with each other, to each other, and about each other.

Instead of negative talk, focus on positive communication. Speak words of encouragement. Congratulate your partner on their achievements, express gratitude for their actions, and reassure them during tough times. Even simple compliments or words of affirmation can strengthen your relationship and keep your communication pure.

And remember, purity in communication doesn't mean avoiding difficult conversations. It's about how you handle them. When addressing sensitive topics or disagreements, do so with a spirit of love and respect. Actively listen to understand your partner's perspective, think before you respond, and keep your emotions in check to prevent unnecessary conflict.

By staying pure in communication, you create a safe and supportive environment for open and honest dialog. This creates a solid foundation for a healthy, Christ-centered relationship. It not only respects each partner's dignity but also helps you grow in your Christlikeness.