COMPANIONSHIP

The bible clearly declares that finding a wife is a good thing. That whoever (insert husband here) "findeth" her "obtaineth favour." This word favour in this context means pleasure, delight, and acceptance! What great words for a relationship. Especially when referring to marriage. I believe that God wants every marriage to operate in this "favour." I would even venture to say that God wants our marriages to be great because He is great.

Companionship, our first pillar, is based on the importance of being a friend. One of the necessary ingredients that Sh'nai and I have learned to be vital to a dynamic marriage. Our definition of companionship is "Using play and camaraderie to fortify an intimate alliance.” Remember when you were young? When everybody was "my friend" and companionship or camaraderie was the only thing that mattered? Most of us lived for that time when we got to go outside and play. The energy and excitement that we felt and the disappointment that followed when it was time to "go inside." Then we would do it all over again the next day.

This is the same excitement and energy that our marriage deserves. Why? Because companionship creates relationship, connection, and a powerful and sustainable friendship. What do you get when you have all of these together? We call it "Lovership." Lovership is intimate. Lovership is vulnerable. Lovership is motivated. It's the application of working and growing together. The lessons and victories that are experienced together. This is what companionship, when done intentionally can create in your marriage. When this happens, there is an everlasting supernatural bond that exists.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 talks about the value of two. When a non-believer or another Christian couple who may be struggling in their marriage sees you and how God has anointed your relationship and your marriage, they are going to say: "That's not fair!" Then they're going to walk up to you and say "How did you get your marriage...you look so happy!" And you will be able to say thanks to God, we learned how to be companions. Here are some tips to develop life-long companionship in your marriage:

1. Prioritize Quality Time: Set aside dedicated time each day to connect with your spouse without distractions. Date regularly (We date at least twice a month and most times weekly). It's not about the money, it's about the intention and the time spent. Turn off those Smartphones!!
2. Support Each Other: Be each other's biggest cheerleader and support system through both triumphs and challenges. This is the foundation of Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10.
3. Cultivate Shared Interests: Find activities or hobbies that you both enjoy and engage in them regularly together. Find a puzzle or board game. Go for a walk. It all builds intimacy.

In all of these things, don't forget to invite God, through Holy Spirit into your relationship with each other. Ask Him for wisdom and enjoy growing in your companionship. Join us on day two as we discuss the importance of Communication in your marriage.