Communication and Connection: A Biblical PerspectiveSample

Listening with Love

One of the best things about a relationship with the Lord is that He is always available and willing to listen to us. You won't ever find his face buried in a phone or find Him preoccupied with something else He has going on while trying to share your heart with Him. Nor will He ever speak over you, demanding His side to be heard first. He will always be found attentive and listening.

Can you say the same when it comes to listening to your spouse? How about how they listen to you? The example God gives us by being willing to hear our pleas when we speak to Him is to be followed. He says to do otherwise and try to talk over one another before we listen is folly and shameful.

Not only is it wise to be attentive when your spouse speaks, but there is also a formula for good communication when listening to one another. In James 1:19, scripture tells us first to be quick to listen. This verse means that when your spouse starts talking, you pay attention. If circumstances don't allow your full attention, then it's a good idea to pause and let your spouse know when a good time would be.

Now it's time to speak after you've listened to and heard your spouse. The key to good communication will always involve both active listening and sharing. When you follow the communication formula God gives us, you will also reap the benefits of being much slower to anger.

Take Action:

The next time your spouse wants to share something with you, put down your phone, make eye contact, and give them your full attention. Then, pay attention to how the rest of the conversation goes once they've felt heard.

Let's Pray:

Dear Lord,

Please keep my ears open for my spouse, and help me to prioritize listening before speaking. In Jesus' name, amen.