Am I sure of what I’m looking for?

Now that you’ve decided that you know why you’re dating, the next question is: what are you looking for in your ‘other half’?

Would you like the ‘bone of your bone’ and ‘flesh of your flesh’ (Genesis 1:23) to be tall or petite, athletic or cuddly, creative or a logician or somewhere in between? What does your checklist (or prayer list) look like? If you don’t have one it would be a great idea to pause and jot one down.

The list matters, but the origins of your list matter even more. First things first; what inspired your list? Having preferences about appearances is natural, we all want to be attracted to our partners, but you may want to consider what else matters.

How about a character-based approach?

So what then should your list of desirables be based on? The world will give lots of different suggestions: looks, job, talents, intellect, wealth and more. But Christ is the perfect standard.

Ephesians 5:1-7 gives a nice brief of what to look for and what to avoid. In summary, you’re looking for love and sacrifice and you are looking out for all types of worldliness.

Let us pray. . . Dear Lord, help me to turn away from the world’s standards and to look into the Word for your guidance on who you have already prepared for me.