Can anger become your friend?

Jesus came to this Earth as a suffering Messiah, but He will return as the Judge. The Bible says, “‘Moreover, the Father judges no one, but has entrusted all judgment to the Son.’” (John 5:22, NIV) Many people are uncomfortable with the anger of God. They prefer the gentle Jesus. But anger is not evil. Let me ask you an important question: “Is anger your biggest enemy, or can it be used for the good?”

I can honestly admit I’ve done a few crazy things when I didn’t know how to control my anger. I punched a hole in a door while I was in seminary, which was embarrassing. I kicked my car and dented the door, which was expensive. I also punched an ice hockey referee by mistake, which hurt my Christian testimony. Have you ever done things in anger? I think we have all said and done things we probably regret.

I’m so grateful I had help to understand my anger and use it for good. I hope these tips help you as they have helped me:

1. Anger is neither bad nor good. It is simply an emotion that comes from our interpretations and thoughts.
2. The Bible says, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” (Ephesians 4:26, NIV) It doesn’t say anger is evil.
3. Control your temper. Count to ten, call a time-out, go for a walk, and forgive the other person.
4. Ask the Holy Spirit to empower you with the gift of self-control.
5. Reinterpret your situation in a way that does not stir up anger.

Jesus has anger, but it’s righteous, controlled, and just. Jesus is on fire.

Will you ever be able to get rid of anger? Probably not, but you can learn how to control it. I’d also like you to try something a little different. Take the energy that comes from your anger and use it for good. You can either let anger destroy you and others, or you can use anger to destroy fear and apathy. You will succeed at this because you are a miracle.

Your friend, Paul Marc Goulet