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Been Offended Lately?

Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends. Proverbs 17:9, ESV

Let’s start with a little quiz today. Honestly, answer each question below:

1. When was the last time someone left you out? What happened?
2. What was the last mean/cruel thing someone said to you?
3. How did someone intentionally hurt you in recent days? What happened?

All of these things are painful. Life and relationships bring about hurt and offense. There is no way to get through this life unscathed and unaffected. Because of this, it is also so easy to hold on to a grudge, nurse an offense for weeks, months, and even years.

I grew up with a girl whose mother got so offended by something that happened at church that she never returned. The last 40 years of her life were spent alone at home on Sundays while her family went to that church.

Getting offended is easy. Often, forgiving is not.

However, forgiveness is sweet, cleansing, and healing. Forgiveness brings about incredible freedom that is lost when we hold onto an offense. Quite frankly, we forgive for the sake of our souls. To forgive is to get back your life, joy, and hope.

Is there anyone or anything you need to forgive today? Maybe even a close friend or family member?

Prayer– Lord, would You give me the grace to let go of all offenses in my life? Free me to forgive, restore, release, and give up my right to an apology. I will entrust my offender to You. You are much better at justice than me.

Reflect– Go back to the three questions at the first of the devotion. Think about when you were left out, talked to meanly, or intentionally hurt. Now, go back over each one and ask God to drain your anger and hurt. Invite God to help you forgive these offenses. Lay them down and get your life back!! It’s the time!