Six Keys to Sexual PuritySample

Key #6 – Seek Accountability Partners to Help with Temptation

Having friends who are on the same journey is always a plus when you want to avoid temptation. You can help each other stay focused on your goals. Just remember to be honest, transparent, supportive, and trustworthy. 

When seeking an accountability partner, you should have standards, set expectations, and establish boundaries. Your accountability partner should be someone who is of the same sex. Selecting a same-sex accountability partner is major because there are instances when temptation can arise when opposite-sex accountability partners connect. Your accountability partner should also be someone who will tell you the truth–even if it hurts (Proverbs 27:6). Proverbs 15:22 says, "Without counsel, plans fail, but with many advisers, they succeed" (English Standard Version). If you're trying to live a pure life, you should seek counsel from someone whose life reflects the fruit associated with Godly living, not someone who isn't even trying to walk in sexual purity (Psalm 1:1-3). 

We want to offer you a few tips to make the most of your accountability partnership: 

Tip 1: Plan and Set Aside a Designated Time for Check-in

 Discuss expectations when you first connect. Identify a regular time to meet; determine how you'll meet (e.g., video chat, call, text); and decide how long you'll meet (e.g., 15 minutes, 30 minutes). Put the designated time on your calendar, and treat it as a fixed appointment. 

Tip 2: Share Your Journey

Be vulnerable and honest with your struggles. We overcome the enemy by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony, and we love not our lives to the death (Revelation 12:11). This means, to experience true freedom, you must share your testimony (1 Peter 3:15). 

Tip 3: Choose One Thing to Conquer 

Sometimes, attempts to overcome multiple issues all at once lead to failure. Instead, create accountability sessions that focus on one problem at a time. This method will help you better track your progress and communicate strengths and challenges to your partner without being overwhelmed. 

Tip 4: Celebrate Your Wins 

Base all of your communication around positive reinforcement. This doesn't mean you're both perfect and everything is great. This means every step in the right direction toward purity should be acknowledged and applauded. 

Tip 5: Be Willing to Change Partners

If your partner starts to disappear or misses a scheduled time on more than one occasion, politely end the partnership. Take responsibility and notify your partner that the partnership isn't working out for you. Then pray and ask God to connect you with someone more compatible. Time is of the essence. There is no time to waste, especially if you're serious about your purity journey. 

These are just a few tips to get you started with your accountability partner. Please feel free to adjust as needed and create a mutually beneficial plan. 

Reflection: 

Do you have an accountability partner? If not, ask God to connect you with other Believers who can help support and encourage you on the journey. 

We hope this Plan encouraged you. Connect with Journey to Purity® .