Boundaries

Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord; seeing that His divine power has granted to us everything pertaining to life and godliness, through the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence. For by these He has granted to us His precious and magnificent promises, so that by them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world by lust.

2 Peter 1:2-4

Boundary setting can be seen as an insult and restriction to our independent nature. We do have free will after all. Like a yard dog with an electronic fence, we don’t like being boxed in. Of course, this is also what gets us into most of our troubles. The truth is that you create boundaries to protect what you love while keeping the threats on the outside. 

Boundaries are meant for our protection. Cells are constructed for our confinement. I suggest you get help in establishing boundaries to ensure you break free and stay free from the pain of your past. It’s easy to focus on avoiding the obvious, but there are many other areas you may not realize remain as threats to your freedom. 

Without an objective perspective, you may not see the people closest to you that serve as triggers for breaking boundaries: locations that remind you of the “good old days,” or activities that are just waiting to reel you back in. Although we’ve already talked about the difficulty in confiding in others, it’s going to be necessary for identifying a set of boundaries that are for your good and your success.

Here’s to protecting the good stuff.

Call To Action 

1. Write out in detail all boundaries you already have in place. 
2. Write out in detail whether you’ve honored or broken each boundary, and if broken, include a detailed explanation of why. 
3. Write out in detail what boundaries you need to set in place, and why. 
4. Write out the names and contact information of the people in your life that would be best for helping you establish boundaries.