Six Lies Girls BelieveSample

 Lie 6: He goes to church, so he is a believer!

“He was passionate about Jesus and passionate about pursuing me. He led worship in our church and quoted Scriptures well. He made me feel so good in his company and I felt great peace. We started hanging out more, going to church together, sharing dinner and secrets together . . . until he eventually cheated on me. The gentleman’s weakness came alive in solitude when no one was watching.  

Same story, same end. Why aren’t we learning?”

Well, every church-going person is not a believer! There are plenty of people with questionable morals and shaky faith sitting in church pews and trolling Christian dating and matrimonial sites.

That’s why when you (first!) know Jesus, it will be so easy for you to identify the difference! A believer is someone who believes in God’s Word and that will be evident by his lifestyle because faith without works is dead (Jam 2:26). If a person, who through his life (walk and talk) is not making you fall in love with Jesus more and not pushing you towards your calling, he is not really a believer (Mat 7:21-23).

Open your eyes; you may still be unequally yoked!

That’s the reason why your focus should be his character, and don’t get blinded by the gifts of the Spirit that he may be operating in. 

How trustworthy is he when no one is watching? Does his life display the fruit of the Spirit? Here are the nine, so you don’t miss: Love, peace, joy, self-control, goodness, kindness, long-suffering and gentleness. Very important is self-control! If you see a person who wants to get physically intimate before time, that should be the biggest warning alarm above all his gifts and talents.

Don’t associate yourself with a man who compromises on the Word of God.  One can say all the right words, preach the Word, do miracles, and yet compromise in areas that matter the most—for example, purity. God says be holy as your Father in heaven is holy (1 Pet 1:15-16).

Marry someone who will challenge you to stay on fire for Jesus and not someone who is lukewarm that you will end up dragging all your life.

 Reflection:

1. Do you sense the man  you intend to marry living a dual life? How is his behavior in the midst of people and when no one is around? 
2. Are his actions in line with his speech? 
3. Does he keep repeating the sinful habits even after confessing them? Is there an addiction he seems to be hiding?