Money Date: Who's the Boss?Sample

Becoming faithful stewards starts by knowing—and believing—that God is our provider. But we live in a world where other beliefs can conflict with that truth—like thinking it's ultimately up to us to "make it happen." This date will help you and your spouse uncover the beliefs and behaviors that will help you trust God to provide for your needs in every season of life.

Follow These Date Ground Rules:

• If you have not done so already, invite your spouse to also subscribe to this plan.
• Pray and invite God to guide you.
• Show up ready to listen and to respond in love.
• Practice active listening—make eye contact and reflect back what you hear.
• Accept that your spouse may have a different opinion, and allow them to express it without any verbal or non-verbal criticism.
• Acknowledge the value in your spouse’s point of view, even if you don't agree with them.
• Encourage your spouse, and remember you are your spouse’s most important advocate!

According to Chuck Bentley, the hidden financial problem for most people is not how they behave with money; it is what they believe about money. 

When you begin to assess and intentionally change your beliefs, you can then begin to change your behaviors—which ultimately leads to lasting transformation.

Perhaps you were never taught that you're managers of God’s stuff. Although He carries the heaviest responsibilities of ownership, control, and provision, He has left plenty for you to do as His stewards here on earth.

There are four reasons why your role as stewards is so important.

PRAY

God, help me surrender our financial situation completely to you.

Before you and your spouse come together for this Money Date, spend some time individually preparing and reflecting on the questions below. This will result in more meaningful discussion during your actual date.

1. In what ways do I (individually) act as if I believe that God is the owner of everything I have, that He is in control, and that He is my provider?

2. In what ways do I not?

3. In what ways do we (as a family) act in alignment with these statements about God?

4. In what ways do we not?