How can I rid myself of guilt?

Consider several key steps required to be free from guilt, all under the banner of forgiveness:

Admit the sin that created your guilt. Repent of your sin to God. If you have sinned against another person, confess to that person. Remember that our society is quick to accept some sinful behaviors as normal. The Bible presents a very clear picture of what is iniquity and what isn’t. If you have any doubt about whether or not you have sinned, consult Scripture. God will show you what is a violation of His Word and what isn’t.

When you confess to God that you have sinned, don’t try to justify what you did. Simply state your transgression. Then ask God to forgive you.

Make amends. If you have wronged another person, don’t try to substitute a request for forgiveness by doing kind deeds for that person. This same principle holds for your relationship with God—don’t try to substitute works for genuine repentance.

In seeking to make amends for a wrong committed against another person, you may be wise to ask the person what he or she would consider fair payment for the hurt or injury, or you may want to offer remuneration of some type. The best repayment may be a genuine change in your life (which may involve counseling, professional help, or therapy). Ask God to give you wisdom in identifying an appropriate way for you to respond. Also, ask Him to give you the courage and the fortitude to follow through on your commitment to the offended person.

Accept forgiveness. If you have sinned against God and have repented, you can be assured that He has forgiven you. His Word promises that He will pardon you (1 John 1:9)—and God always keeps His Word. If you have sinned against another person and he forgives you, accept his words of forgiveness at face value. Don’t try to second-guess his sincerity or motives.

What happens if you confess a sin against another person and the person refuses to forgive you? That person bears the responsibility for failing to forgive; you don’t. You have done what the Lord requires of you, and you stand clean before the Lord.

Taken from The Charles F. Stanley Life Principles Bible