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Supporting Your Husband Through Male Factor Infertility

What is it like for a man who suffers from infertility? A woman can bear her soul to her friends and her sisters. How does a man cope when he cannot impregnate his wife?

Look at a couple of men in Scripture who had to trust God for children: Abraham and Zacharias. To be clear, no male factor infertility is indicated in these stories; however, both men felt the angst and grief associated with infertility.

God called Abraham his friend. What an honor! Zacharias was upright in the sight of God, observing all the Lord's commandments and regulations blamelessly. Did God see them as less worthy men because they didn’t have spit up stains on their robes? Not at all. They were men upon whom He chose to build the foundations of the church. Abraham would be the father of nations and through him all people would be blessed. Zacharias would raise the forerunner of the Messiah. Yet, at one time, each of these men were one half of an infertile couple. God saw unimaginable worth in these men. He saw past infertility’s influence on their lives, and saw what He could make of them.

If your husband suffers from male factor infertility, why not make today about him? Chances are, if you are blessed with friends or family who understand your struggle to conceive, they offer support to you far more than to your husband. Remind your husband why you love him. When you first met him and fell in love with him, what was it about him that made your heart skip a beat? I’ll bet it wasn’t his sperm count! Did the dimple in his chin make your knees go weak? Tell him. Were you gushing like a school girl over the way he sang off-key on a walk to the park? Take another walk today and reminisce. Help him realize that fathering a child is not the only thing you want him for. Remind him how manly he is to you. As you support and encourage him, you may just find your own burden lifting.

An excellent husband, who can find?

For his worth is far above jewels, no matter his fertility.

The heart of his wife trusts in him,

And she will have no lack of gain.