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God’s Brilliant Invention

Just as God created love and marriage, He is also the Author of sexual intimacy. It is his brilliant invention, created for husbands and wives to enjoy within marriage.

Even though sex is part of God’s good design, it often stirs up a wide range of feelings among Christian women. Depending on how you were raised, the things you’ve experienced, and the choices you’ve made, your perspective on sex likely leans one of two ways: 

1. You view sex as dirty, shameful, and awkward and are not looking forward to it (or currently enjoying it) within marriage.

2. You view sex as an awesome and positive thing that should be experienced right now without any boundaries or reserve. 

Each of these views leans in the opposite direction of the other, but both are wrong. Instead of leaning too far in one direction or the other, we need to get back to the center. We need to embrace a balanced, positive, and biblical perspective about sex. 

God created each one of us to be a sexual being. We don’t magically transform into sexual beings once we get married. Your desire for sexual intimacy actually points to something much deeper: a desire for intimacy with God.

The more you understand God’s spectacular design for sex, the more equipped you will be to glorify Him in this area. Just as a flower thrives within the right context (good soil, lots of sunlight, and adequate rain), the gift of sex will thrive best (as God intended) within its proper context. 

This intimate act of knowing another human sexually creates a deep physical, emotional, and spiritual bond. Within marriage, this deep bond is a beautiful thing. When a husband and wife selflessly enjoy sexual intimacy within a covenant marriage, they will become even more unified. In this context, sex is pure, holy, unifying, and shame free. 

In all of this, though, we must remember an extremely important truth: sex isn’t the answer to our happiness. Sex isn’t the ultimate prize for getting married. As incredible as sexual intimacy is, our greatest need is not for sex but for spiritual intimacy with our Savior. Whether we are single or married, our greatest needs will only be met when we’re faithfully walking in a relationship with Christ. 

What are the biggest differences you see between God’s design and purpose for sex and what the culture portrays?