Breaking Free After A BreakupSample

Carrying the Baggage. 

The pain of a break up can sometimes leave us feeling insecure, unattractive, and unwanted. We sometimes don’t realize it but without healing from the damage of a breakup, we end up carrying the burden of guilt and shame; and it weighs down on so much in our lives, including our self-concept, our standards, and our values. 

With your self-concept diminished, you are more likely to also lower your standards to self-medicate the negative feelings. So now, you begin to tolerate and accept some of the things you swore you never would. Then, to accommodate your lowered standards, you end up compromising your values. 

The baggage that weighs you down after breakups is not for you to carry. In Matthew 11:30, Jesus says “My yoke is easy, my burden is light”. Therefore, if you ever feel like you’re being weighed down to the point of compromising values and moving into relationships with a defeated mindset, you should consider whether or not you’ve held on to dead weight that doesn’t belong to you. Shame has a way of convincing you that your baggage is yours to carry and that your problem is yours to fix. Meanwhile, God is edging you to surrender all to Him so that He can bring you the simplicity and lightness that comes from walking with Him.