Advice From One Newly Married Wife to AnotherSample

God Gives Good Gifts

The day my soon-to-be husband and I had been planning for eight months had finally arrived.

Nerves and excitement swirled as I curled up in bed, reading a letter from Perry.

I’m easily anxious about big life changes. But as I read the letter, I knew as long as we kept God at the center of our marriage, marrying him was the right decision. I knew Perry was a good gift from Him.

I was still anxious as my hair and makeup were done. I was just a few hours away from one of the biggest moments in my life. Was this really happening? Was today the day I would become a wife?

The rest of the day was a dream. The things that didn’t go as planned went unnoticed. And in the blink of an eye, I heard, “Perry, you may kiss your bride.” We were married!

In our early days of marriage, a recurring fear of vulnerability with Perry held me captive to the enemy often. Not just the physical side of it, but spiritual and emotional vulnerability also felt difficult. The lie that I wasn’t safe with Perry (though he is the safest person I know), kept weaving into my mind.

Perry and I both felt stuck. Everything he did made me shrivel up or want to run in fear. I didn’t walk confidently in the Lord to give me peace, comfort, and safety in those moments. I didn’t see Perry as a God-given gift I could trust fully.

In everyday life, we can struggle to see our husband as a good gift from God, especially when we are bothered by something they’ve done (or even fear that they’ll let us down).

To view our husbands as good gifts from God, we must remember the battle we face between our flesh and the Holy Spirit that dwells inside of us. While the Holy Spirit helps us see our husband as a good gift from God, our easily annoyed or impatient flesh distracts us from seeing the same perspective. When I fail to invite the Holy Spirit in frequently, I am often led by my fears and selfish desires.

But there is hope for me (and you), as Luke 1:45 says, “And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord.”

When you actively believe God will fulfill everything in your life according to His will, you can rest assured He is trustworthy and has good gifts in store for you. When God clarified that marrying Perry was the best choice for me, I walked in obedience. With trembling hands and shaking legs, standing in front of our family and friends, we declared to one another that this marriage was God’s good gift.

Today, tell your husband he is a good gift from God. Remember that because of Jesus’ death on the cross, your sins are forgiven, your imperfections are made beautiful, and you have the greatest gift available–an eternal relationship with God.