Biblically-Based Communication Tips for CouplesSample

Day 1: Speak Kindly and Gently

You can always turn to the Bible for guidance in your relationships. And it’s no different when you want to learn about communication. Whether you’re new to the dating scene or in a more serious relationship, bettering your communication skills is always a good idea.

The first communication tip is to speak kindly and gently. It comes from Ephesians 4:29, which says, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

Picture a moment when you and your partner are in the midst of a disagreement. The natural reaction might be to let frustration take over, leading to harsh words. These words can cut deep, hurting your partner's feelings and undermining the trust between you.

But imagine if you chose to respond with kindness and gentleness instead. Your words could become a source of comfort and encouragement, reinforcing your connection and trust.

Reflect on your daily conversations with your significant other. Are your words nurturing and supportive? Do they uplift your partner and make them feel cherished? Do you choose kindness in the midst of disagreements?

There will be times when speaking kindly feels like an uphill battle, especially when emotions run high. However, kind words act like the glue that holds your relationship together. They have the power to transform a challenging day into a positive one and to resolve conflicts with grace.

Here’s a challenge for you: Before you speak, ask yourself if your words are helpful and kind. If you sense anger or frustration bubbling up, take a deep breath and choose gentle words instead. Make this a daily practice, and watch as the quality of your relationship flourishes.

God calls us to use our words to uplift, not to wound. By consistently speaking kindly and gently, you demonstrate love and respect for your partner.