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Value

Character Goal: Value is the recognition of a person’s worth, importance, and meaning to God and others.

Biblical Character: Aksah

Scripture Readings: Joshua 14:6‑15; Judges 1:1‑2, 12‑13; Ephesians 5:24b‑33

Discussion Questions:

• Describe Caleb and how he followed God.
• What do you think it means to follow God wholeheartedly? Do you know anyone that follows God in this way?
• How did the other men who spied out the land cause the people to feel about the inheritance promised to them?
• What did Moses swear to Caleb and why?
• Describe Caleb at 85 years old. Who was he still confident in 45 years later? How do we know this?
• After God chose the tribe of Judah to go first in taking the land, what challenge did Caleb present to the young men concerning his daughter, Aksah?
• Why do you think Caleb went this route to choose a husband for his daughter, Aksah? What kind of man was he looking for to be her husband?
• Who rose to the challenge to take Kiriath Sepher? How was he related to Caleb? What does this tell you about what his family valued?
• What do Othniel’s actions show us about how he might have valued Aksah?
• What are some of the things you value about yourself? About your teammates?
• Caleb was a father that cared deeply about who his daughter would marry. He wanted her to marry someone that trusted God and would lay his life down for her, and he had a plan to weed out those that would not. How do Othniel’s actions relate to what Christ did for us on the cross?
• According to the passage in Ephesians 5, how are husbands to love their wives?
• What does this tell us about the kind of husband our Heavenly Father desires for us?
• Who is the Church? What did Christ’s sacrifice do for the Church?
• As you consider the guys you have dated or are dating, would they be men God would see as worthy of the value God has placed on you? Why or why not? Do their actions toward you reflect the actions of Christ toward the Church?
• What does this story teach you about God? Women? How can you apply these truths to your life?
• What is one thing I learned from this story that I can apply to my life before the next lesson?

Core Truths:

• God values us so much that He sacrificed His own Son so that we might be in relationship with Him.
• God desires for the man who will be our husband to reflect the worth He has placed on us.
• Women who trust in the value God places on them influence the way others treat them.

Training for Godliness:

Have you ever had a winning streak, breakout season, or back‑to‑back high scores? Did you begin to think highly of yourself? Your value is not tied up in numbers. Records can be broken, streaks come to an end, but the value God places on your life does not change. Proper self‑esteem, or value, is evident in our attitudes and actions towards others. What is your attitude towards others? Do you see the value that ALL people bring or do you believe you are more valuable than anyone else? What are some ways you can properly see yourself in light of who God sees you to be?

Memory Verse: “Her husband also praises her.” -Proverbs 31:28b