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Dating: Questions to Ask Before You Get Serious

DAY 5 OF 5

Want to Pray About It?

Philippians 4:6-7

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Hebrews 4:16

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

Proverbs 11:14

“For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.”

James 1:5

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

The decision to get serious with someone and start planning a future together isn’t something to be taken lightly. And it’s definitely not something you should do before praying about it. And while you can and should spend time with God on your own, it’s also a powerful experience to pray about the relationship with the person you’re in a relationship with.

You can also seek advice from wise counsel, like someone who has been happily married for many years and walks with the Lord. Or, ask other God-fearing people to pray for the Holy Spirit to speak to both of you as to how the relationship should progress.

What’s most important is that you pray about it and lean into what you believe God is telling you to do. Pay close attention to whether or not you feel peace about moving forward in the relationship. And talk about any hesitations or concerns you have, whether it be about their faith walk, family plan, or future goals. It may be something you can navigate through together, or it may be a sign that it isn’t the best relationship for you.

Questions to Ask:

Is there anything that worries or concerns you about taking our relationship to the next level?

Do you feel like we’re on the same page when it comes to faith, family, and the future?

Would you be willing to spend time in prayer together to make sure we make the right decision for our relationship?

Would you be willing to talk to [insert someone who can provide wise counsel birthed from prayer] together for wisdom and advice about our relationship?

Here’s a prayer for seeking wisdom about moving forward in a relationship that you can pray on your own and together:

God,

Thank You for bringing [insert name] into my life. We are so grateful for the time we’ve spent together.

As we begin to talk about pursuing our relationship on a deeper level, we ask for wisdom and guidance. We want to make the best decision for our relationship that honors and glorifies You.

You know the plans You have for our lives–and You know whether or not those long-term plans involve each other.

If there is anything we still need to talk about before moving forward, we pray You would bring those questions to our attention.

If there are reasons we shouldn’t be together, we pray You would bring clarity and understanding about those things.

And if moving this relationship forward is a wise decision–the right decision–we pray for Your peace and blessing to know we are walking in Your will for our lives.

We trust You and Your perfect plan, God. Thank You for freely giving wisdom and guiding us on the right path.

We ask all of these things in Jesus’ name, Amen.

This plan was provided by Upward an app made for Christian singles looking for meaningful relationships. Get the app here: https://dateupward.me/SeriousQuestions

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About this Plan

Dating: Questions to Ask Before You Get Serious

Have you been dating someone for a while? Are things going well? Are you considering having “the talk,” defining the relationship, and getting a bit more serious about the person? What an exciting time in a relationship! In this 5-day devotional, we’re sharing the most important questions to ask someone before taking your relationship to the “next level.”

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