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Sex: How Often

DAY 4 OF 6

Hurdles

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In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question, What are some hurdles you have worked through that improved your sex life?”

It is interesting how God works. God has a way of making something beautiful out of something that seems terrible to us. The reality is that, at some time, we will all have hurdles that impede our sex life. It is up to us whether they grow our relationship or hinder it. God’s plan is always growth. For all of us, the way we look on the outside will change over time. From my perspective, it seems women struggle to accept this more than men do. Part of the role of a husband is to help our wives see the beauty we see in them at every stage of their life.  

Peter talks about the “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”.  Proverbs  “tells us to enjoy the wife of our youth” for our entire marriage.  When we encounter hurdles, we must keep our eyes focused on the big picture of loving each other and enjoying each other for a lifetime. Doug illustrates this well as he talks about a husband pursuing his wife and discovering who she is on the inside. I think this is powerful. For a man, this adds depth to the relationship. For a woman, she sees her husband love her in a way that only he is able to do. It helps us keep our focus where God wants it to be.

Today’s Challenge: 

How does pursuing the “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” and “enjoying the wife of our youth” apply to you and your marriage?

Going Deeper:

As a couple, what is one hurdle that you have encountered that affected your sex life?  Have you dealt with it? If not, are you willing to begin that now? Can you see how working through this hurdle can actually improve your sex life?

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About this Plan

Sex: How Often

How often do married couples have sex? What is normal? If you seldom have sex, does this affect your marriage negatively? How does quality versus quantity work in regard to sex? Can you have too much sex? Doug and Mel Cowart have been married for 9 years. They are a blended family with two kids. They join Dr. Kim as we talk about sex in marriage.

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