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Making Normal Happen

Devotional Content: 

In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question, “What are you doing to make ‘normal’ happen?”

Song of Solomon refutes all the negative preconceived ideas people have about God and sex. In two different places in the book the couple enjoy the sexual relationship in marriage together. God is not a prude. He is the one who created sex. He made our bodies to perfectly fit together. He gives us sex in marriage as a gift and wants us to enjoy it as a couple.  

In meeting with couples and talking about their sexual relationship, I see so many things that can distract us and keep us from spending this time together. For most couples they are not bad things. It could be work, kids, stress or any number of things that are a part of our lives. Being intentional with sex in our marriage seems to be a common theme as we look at defining “normal.” For Nancy and I, our sexual relationship connects us. When life gets in the way of sex, we both can feel a disconnect. We know we need that to be a regular part of our life and we know the value it brings. For us, making “normal” happen is a priority that we have never regretted.

Today’s Challenge: 

Discuss together how sex is a good gift from a good God. Is there is anything that blocks you from seeing sex in this way? Reading Song of Solomon together would be a great way for you both to see God’s design for sex in your marriage.

Going Deeper:

Being intentional about your sex life can mean one thing to one couple and something different to another couple. What does it mean to you?