Five Things to Look for in a Future Wifeಮಾದರಿ

The Bible clearly defines what it means to have a relationship with Jesus. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “by grace you have been saved through faith, and this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.” So, look for a woman whose faith is the foundation of her life. She should have a deep, personal relationship with God that guides her decisions and actions.

The Bible warns us against being “unequally yoked” with our spouse. What does that mean? Unequally yoked means that there is a serious mismatch between the two people. Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness.” Paul is very direct and very clear. A marriage between a believer and an unbeliever starts on shaky ground at best. They will not have a oneness of core beliefs and values.

You may think you have a lot in common, but without the foundation of shared faith, there will be a growing distance between you and your spouse. So, in choosing your wife, she should have a strong personal relationship with God and be committed to following Christ. It is not a suggestion, it is essential.

Nancy and I had some really difficult times early in our marriage. Looking back, I know that our shared faith and commitment to the covenant of marriage is what got us through. I firmly believe that if you are in an unequally yoked marriage, you will never have the marriage that God designed for you.

Prayer:

Father, give me your wisdom and discernment in choosing a spouse. Let her love for you be abundantly evident. In Jesus name, Amen.