Finding Great Friendsಮಾದರಿ

In my years working with women in various capacities, one of the overwhelming issues I’ve seen and heard from more ladies than I can count is this: Where can I find a good, quality friend?

While I know it’s true from my own experience, it’s terribly sad that the very ones around us in church and small groups, who should be loving and supporting each other through all the things life throws at us, are often the ones who are the most troublesome.

Some wives wear their husband’s job on their shoulders, acting as if they should receive special privileges because they are married to a man who has done what is necessary to achieve his current status. Some people cannot control their tongue, closely watching the neighborhood and listening at every doorframe for the juiciest tidbits to pass on to others, often without checking the accuracy of what they saw or heard. I’ve even run into a few people who thought they were of critical importance simply because they either were the upper level of some well-known organization or spent many volunteer hours with those who comprised that upper level.

Sadly, the entitled and the gossips aren’t the only problems out there. Infidelity and addictions are rampant. Spouse shaming is far too common and often happens to those who are already struggling to make it through their day. And the entire debate and resulting guilt surrounding who should or should not work outside the home irritates me!

This whole subject can be demoralizing. And heartbreaking. And overwhelming. But there’s hope. You may see nothing but rough waters of gossips and irritants around you right now, but I promise you that God has placed some beautiful pearls there too. Yes, some intentionally make life more difficult. But trust me, some make life more precious, and they are worth your time to seek out.