Six Lies Girls Believeಮಾದರಿ

 Lie # 2: My man will complete me 

Nothing can be farther than the truth. Men and women are not designed to complete each other, rather complement each other. If you are believing for someone else to "complete" you, your eyes will always be on that person to perfectly meet all your needs and that’s how heart breaks happen because that is something that only God can do. 

Marriage is not about two incomplete people coming together. But for a child of God, it is the coming together of two “new creations.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT) says, “Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”  And, out of this internal change, our external actions follow! 

Listen girls, marriage is not where love is found, but where it should be given. Marriage is about sacrifice more than entitlement, about giving more than getting, about serving more than being served, and you will be able to do that only when you are gleaning your strength from God and not each other.  

In other words, in marriage you don't always live with the expectation to be loved, but you take the first step to love. You choose to do things for one another not because you have to, but because you love to. And you will never be able to do that in your own strength but only when you constantly fill yourself with the love of your heavenly Father, who Himself is love (1Jhn 4:8). This is so different from the selfish, “what’s-in-it-for-me” kind of love in marriage that you see in the world around you.

So, prepare for your marriage with the right understanding, and you will save yourself and your would-be spouse from a lot of troubles.

Reflection:

 1. Do you feel desperate to have someone in your life to feel special, loved, wanted ?Can you remember the last time you felt like this in God’s presence? 

2. Do you feel depressed or broken when your expectations from men go unfulfilled?  

3. Do you often look for validation from the opposite sex?