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Choosing Gratitude

DAY 2 OF 10

Day 2: For Shared Tables

Hospitality means primarily the creation of free space where the stranger can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy. Hospitality is not to change people, but to offer them space where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines.

— Henri J.M. Nouwen, Reaching Out: The Three Movements of the Spiritual Life

During my first year of marriage, I found myself often at the kitchen bar in the white house that shared our backyard. My neighbor and I would get up early, work out together, and then she would make us egg sandwiches while her baby slept. We chatted easily about anything and everything, egg yoke dripping down our chins. It was a tiny table, a simple offering, a rich gesture.

It seems a table, a bar, the floor will do. So will an egg, tea, leftover cake. The point isn’t the content of the offering, the point is the content of the heart. She wasn’t hurried or anxious or too busy to offer a space for freedom and growth and joy.

When we make space at the table for others, we make space for our heart to expand. We stretch, we listen, we empathize, we extend a hand. When space has been made for me, I have known healing, kindness, laughter, freedom, God. 

And aren’t we grateful? For the shared tables we have been a part of, the laughter, the chaos, the sacred space? We can stop and recall the spaghetti, the last minute “stay for dinner”, the backyard bbq and sangria. And as we sit, cozy and grateful, thinking about the tables we’ve shared - we vow to do it more often - both with those who are easy and those who are harder. Who can we invite to our table this week, offering peanut butter and jelly and a humble heart?

God, thank you for the shared tables. For the spilled milk and the dripping egg and the laughter and the love and the extra plates and last minute applesauce added to the spread. Thank you for grace, for freedom, for hope in that space. Help us to think of those who need a table this week and to invite them in. Help us to be brave instead of perfect at our offerings.

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Choosing Gratitude

So many of us are living frustrated, anxious, and overwhelmed. But we don't have to stay this way. New habits can be formed. Fresh hope can be found. Joy is truly right around the corner. But how do we get there? The spiritual practice of gratitude is often the missing key to unlock the hope, joy, and beauty around us.

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