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Extinguish Anger

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Where is the Anger Coming From?

Understanding where anger is coming from in our lives is helpful. There is usually a deep-rooted hurt that is beneath anger. In the case of the Veteran in my office, he shared traumatic events from his childhood and from his time in Iraq. When we experience a traumatic event, anger is a common feature of a survivor’s response to trauma because it is a core component of the survival response in humans. Anger helps people cope with life’s adversities by providing us with increased energy to persist in the face of obstacles.

In the lives of those who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), uncontrolled anger can lead to a continued sense of being out of control and can create many problems. One theory on anger and trauma suggests that high levels of anger are related to a natural survival instinct. When initially confronted with extreme threat, anger is a normal response to terror. Anger can help a person survive by mobilizing all of his or her attention, thought, brain energy, and action toward survival.

Research at the National Center for PTSD has shown that responses to extreme threat can become “stuck” in people with PTSD. This leads to a survival mode response where the individual is more likely to react to situations with “full activation,” as if the circumstances were life-threatening. This automatic response of irritability and anger in individuals with PTSD can create serious problems in their interpersonal relationships.

With counsel from our PTSD clinic, the Veteran whose anger was out of control was able to see that he was stuck in a “full activation” stage of anger due to his childhood survival of his father’s physical abuse and his military survival from his time in Iraq. As the Veteran looked closely at his childhood, he learned that his father’s intolerance of simple mistakes had accentuated his own intolerance of his and his wife’s slightest short-comings. Things like burning the toast, spilling coffee, or being a few minutes late would set him off into a rage. As he stepped back into his military experience, he realized that his training emphasized how a minuscule deviation from the plan of action meant loss of life. Thus he saw how his wife not putting something away in its exact spot might put him into a crazed mania.

If you find yourself relating to the Veteran in this story, it is important that you reach out to a trained therapist for help. You may have been through horrific experiences as a child and have thought yourself in hell during your military service.

I assure you that God passionately cares for you, and deeply desires for you to be supported as you work through these horrific memories and better understand what is behind your raging anger.

Readings from the Old Testament

A spirit of jealousy is often behind our anger.

Genesis 4:3-8

Be cautious of anger that leads to senseless violence.

Genesis 49:5

Realize how a lack of trust in God can lead us to take matters into our own hands, with anger as fuel.

Psalm 37:7-9

When we cannot control our anger, we are in a dangerous place.

Proverbs 25:28

Readings from the New Testament

Addressing our angry feelings is important since God calls us to get rid of destructive anger.

Colossians 3:5-10

Our anger can keep us from being the people God desires us to be.

James 1:19-26

Thoughts for Reflection

  1. What type of situations cause you to feel extremely irritable? Write or share about these situations.
  2. What things, people, or events trigger your tension? Why do you think these particular things, people, or events infuriate you?
  3. What deep-rooted hurts might lie behind your angry outbreaks? Find a trained professional with whom you can discuss these memories.
  4. With paint or markers, draw what you believe your anger looks like in response to those things, people, or events which set off your anger. Share and discuss your drawings as you are able.

Prayer

Dear God, at times in my life I am filled with such anger. Sometimes my own rage even scares me because it comes upon me with such surprising vengeance. I acknowledge that I need help with my anger issues.

It saddens me to think of how my anger has not only hurt me, but also those that I love. I am sorry for the way that I have allowed my anger to torture not only me, but also the people around me. Please forgive me for how my anger has wounded others.

I recognize that I need guidance on how to better understand what is behind my anger. Please help me to understand the underlying wounds in my own life, so I may address those issues in my life. My deep-rooted anger often causes me to act quite unloving. I thank you for loving me even when I act in an unloving manner.

In your loving name. Amen.

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About this Plan

Extinguish Anger

Few things spark greater anger than a betrayal. And carrying the pain and trauma with you can ignite an unquenchable resentment that leaves you hopeless and despondent. When you’re overcome with bitterness, you need to know there is a God who understands and can help reconcile your pain. This plan will help you understand your anger and how to extinguish it with peace.

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