Seven Days to “The Intimacy You Crave” Bible Planಮಾದರಿ

Your Mind

The surgery was rougher than we had anticipated. After almost a week, I was released from the hospital and finally in my own bed. My darling husband stayed with me. He watched television as I laid my head on his chest and slept for hours.

It is one of my sweetest memories. I think on it often.

You can either choose to think about sweet memories or choose to disregard them. Remembering endearing moments and occasions like this can majorly enhance your desire for your husband.

Your mind is your most powerful tool for keeping things steamy in the passion department.

On days you don’t feel madly in love, stop and ask: If I felt wildly in love, how would I act? And then do whatever that is. Recognize that feelings can lie to you.

Love is not always a feeling. Love is a commitment. Love is an action word. Love is a choice. “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered” (1 Corinthians 13:4–5). At how many weddings have you heard those verses read? Those are some mighty powerful instructions from God. Don’t allow your emotions to take charge. Once you start acting in loving ways, your feelings will follow.

Controlling what you allow yourself to meditate on will have a huge effect on your feelings and also have major implications for how you will love your husband both inside and outside of the bedroom.

How different would your marriage be if every time you saw something about your husband that irritated you, instead of giving in to the irritation, you prayed a prayer of gratitude?

How different would your evenings be if instead of becoming aggravated with your husband, you thanked God for him?

God designed us for emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Unleash yourself—in your mind and in your body.

So what? Tap into your desires. Pay attention to when you feel like doing the “horizontal tango.” What causes you to feel like this? It might be memories of past encounters with him, his embrace, his smell, or his tenderness with your children. Once you can identify what creates loving feelings, carefully look for ways to duplicate them.

Dear God, I ask You to set my marriage on fire with fun, passion, and romance.

I invite you to pick up a copy of The Intimacy You Crave: Straight Talk about Sex and Pancakes.My dream is that we’d see more and more lasting, loving, forever marriages. Let’s heat up marriages around the world, one marriage at a time, starting with yours.