Biblical Secrets to a Healthy MarriageSample

Criticism and contempt will create a toxic environment that can poison any relationship.

The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5 that we should love sacrificially, but when we criticize, we are choosing to attack our spouse instead of building them up.

While many may think, "I don't say bad things about them outright," criticism is usually blanketed by broad statements like “you never” or “you always." These statements can be deeply damaging and create strong resentment within a marriage.

It's also important to note that while sarcasm and an unkind tone may not be labeled as "criticism," they can ignite contempt and erode trust and peace within a relationship.

To change this, I encourage you to intentionally replace the criticizing words spoken within the marriage. Instead of saying words like, “You never help,” try, “It would mean a lot if you could help with this.” Aim to share feelings without attacking. Speak words that build up, not tear down. Kind words will help bring healing and show that your heart is open to reconciliation.

Encouragement: Make it a goal to highlight one positive thing about each other daily to keep love and respect strong.

Let’s pray: Lord, help us to approach each other with kindness and understanding. Let our words build each other up instead of tearing each other down. Amen.