Learning to be consistent

Learning to be consistent

As a young mom, I used to wonder what it would take to be disciplined and consistent in my parenting style. Over the years I've learned that intentional thought, prayer, conversation, and consideration all go into that mix.  

We can parent with more steadiness when we think. When we slow down and consider our response to what our children say or do, then we will be able to be an astute parent. The ability to think before we speak, before we discipline and before we step in is an act of wisdom. Thinking guides us in discerning between a childlike mistake or an act of rebellion.

Our children thrive when we are dependable and unchanging in our nature. It is, however, much easier said than done. Consistent parenting leads to our children knowing what to expect and it helps them gain confidence and feel safe. I struggle with this aspect much more than my husband. When our children were younger, we often had conversations on how to present a united front before them. I have had to work hard in this area over the years, but the dividends are starting to pay off.

The fruit of the Spirit produces in me what my children need as they grow. The Holy Spirit helps me to grow in self-control, love, patience, faithfulness and so much more.

Take a few minutes and reflect on your level of consistency in the following areas:

Do you have regular times of prayer and in the Word of God? (Let your kids see you praying)
Are you exercising regularly and eating healthy food?
What are your words like? Is your yes your yes, and your no your no?
Do you discipline your children consistently and in line with your family values?