God at the Centre of Your MarriageSample

WHOM ARE YOU SUBMITTED TO? (2)

I told you yesterday that Headship is not control; it is safety. We have a lot of people hurting one another in the body of Christ today and great damage going on because there is no structure that they respect and respond to. There are pastors today that will not heed the counsel of the headman in that ministry but will listen to another uncle in the family somewhere; that uncle is his true father.

Whatever you respond to during a crisis or when you need to make critical decisions is the real headship over you. Until you trace who a man will listen to, that man does not have integrity in relationship. If I may counsel you, such a man is not a safe person to relate with.

A true friend should have the right to speak to you irrespective of the difference in your status. No matter what you have become in life, your friend should be able to call you and talk some sense into you, correcting you in love. If they don’t have that right, you are deceiving yourselves calling each other friends.

Husband and wife, who do you both submit to in marriage? You must settle this. As you mature, you submit to the scriptures and that is where I want you to get to, finally. But before then, you will need a man that provides anointed leadership to both of you. God gave you a man and He gave you a manual. The manual is the Bible. He also gave you men, men that you both can submit to.

PRAYER: Help me Lord to get it right in this area. Amen!