Step 5: Pursuing Shared Activities Together

When we were dating, we did things together to get to know one another more deeply. We shared activities together and enjoyed each other’s company. The continued pursuit of one another through shared activities can add love, life, and fulfillment to your marriages. Sharing activities is incredibly important to the health of your marriage.

Most women connect heart-to-heart and eye-to-eye in sharing. Most guys connect shoulder-to-shoulder doing activities. All are important qualities for your marriage. For wives, spending time together in shared activities fulfills their longing for connection and intimacy. It also draws husbands into that sense of intimate connection, creating a mutually beneficial situation for both partners.

When you spend time with your spouse, you’re creating soul memories and good feelings together that will spill over into other areas of your marriage. You’ll also be setting a great example for your children of what a healthy marriage looks like.

If finding shared activities proves to be a challenge, don’t look at it as being mismatched with your spouse. Instead, view it as an opportunity to grow and experience life on a deeper level. Exploring new activities and hobbies together can enrich your life and your marriage, and that is a huge payoff. Remember to keep it fun!

Action step: Have a purposeful discussion with your spouse. Plan some enjoyable activities together.