Abuse in Your Past?Sample

Look at me

If I knew that 100 abusive people showed up at our church on a Sunday, I would say, “Look at me. I’m happy you’re here. This is a Christian church where sinners are welcome. In Jesus’ day, the worst people in town were tax collectors and prostitutes, but Jesus called them to follow him. We want to be like Jesus, so you are welcome to follow Jesus here too.”

And then, with all the compassion in my heart, I would continue: “And we welcome you with wisdom. We don’t let the gambling addict be the church treasurer. We don’t tempt alcoholics by having them buy the wine for Communion. And we don’t let abusive people alone in situations where abuse can happen. So, yes, we require background checks for our children’s ministry. Yes, we will communicate with parole officers and craft a personal plan that meets and, perhaps, exceeds the requirements of the law. Because we care about you and everyone else.”

I’m not sure how that message would be received, but I know what the Bible says about those who are truly repentant: “See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done” (2 Corinthians 7:11). People who are truly sorry will take steps to prove it, submitting to the leadership of the church.

If you have a history of abusive behavior and want to change, go to church. Even if there are consequences for your past, a Christian church can help you walk with Jesus for your eternal future.