Strengthen Your Marriage Sample

Complement Each Other

In case you haven’t heard it, or perhaps you need a reminder, lines like, “You complete me” are perfect for the movies, but they do not apply in real life relationships. Colossians 2:10 says that you are complete in Christ. This not only tells us that being complete without another person is possible but that if we aren’t experiencing that fullness, Jesus is the one to turn to – not a spouse or another person. What a relief! Being whole in Christ takes the pressure off and frees you and your spouse to come together and do what you were created to do: complement each other, not complete or fix each other.

When God made Eve, we read in Genesis 2 how she was created to be a helper Adam. God knew that Adam wouldn’t just benefit from having some help, it was “not good” for him to be alone. Adam wasn’t missing anything, but to set the wrong thing right, God created Eve to add something to him. We know after reading Genesis 19-20 that Eve wasn’t the first option presented to Adam, but she was the one who was just right for him. She stood out among the rest because she was uniquely and specifically designed to be the perfect helper for him. This is true for all women and men. Women are designed as helpers for men, and men are designed to leave their mothers and fathers for their wives.

The unity of a man and woman in marriage opens the two-way submissive relationship we read about in Ephesians 5. Wives submit to their husbands like they submit to Christ and husbands love their wives like Christ loves His Church. It is only through Christ that husbands and wives are able to be complete within themselves and complement each other. And what is all of that for? Well, when God said it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone, He was thinking of all He had in mind for him. The creation of Eve that led to their unity and marriage means that God had something in mind that the two of them would need each other for. The same is true in your marriage. You and your spouse, being made whole in Christ, have been put together to do what God has purposed you to do.

Every marriage might have a different purpose, but one thing we know for sure is that the purpose of no marriage is to bring fulfillment or completion to the other person.

Consider what you’re really good at that your spouse isn’t as good at, and consider what they are really good at that you’re not really good at. How might you combine your strengths to do something you wouldn’t be able to do on your own? What might that mean for what God wants to do through your marriage?